SELF LOVE

I AM Enough. YOU ARE Enough.

WHY IS IT SO HARD TO SAY “I AM ENOUGH”?

Look in the mirror and say aloud: “I am enough”.
Now repeat and say it with conviction: “I am enough”.

Do you believe it?

Honestly, many don’t. What’s even more interesting about that is that even those “successful” women that we admire or look at with envy don’t believe it either.

“I see the cultural messaging everywhere that says that an ordinary life is a meaningless life. And I see how kids that grow up on a steady diet of reality television, celebrity culture, and unsupervised social media can absorb this messaging and develop a completely skewed sense of the world. I am only as good as the number of “likes” I get on Facebook or Instagram.” – Brené Brown

We asked people where the feeling of not being enough may come from. These are some of the answers we got:

WHY WE STILL NEED TO SAY IT 

The feeling of not being enough is built into our culture. Gender roles and social messaging is built into our culture. It shouldn’t be the norm, but we conform to not being enough.

“when we work from a place, I believe, that says, “I’m enough” … then we stop screaming and start listening, we’re kinder and gentler to the people around us, and we’re kinder and gentler to ourselves.” Brené Brown

So here’s the deal: We all struggle with it. It’s completely normal that we do. But to get more out of our lives we need to learn to let go. 

I AM BEAUTIFUL, I AM
I AM WORTHY, I AM
I AM ENOUGH, I AM
I AM KIND, I AM
I AM THE LIGHT, I AM
Songbird Sinclair (WIW 2019)

We all struggle, but I asked the question to my community as some of us are learning to say “I am enough”. So, we also asked people, “Why is it important to say, “I’m Enough”? And what does it mean to you?”. These are the answers we got: 

For me it’s important because I used to be a people pleaser, allowing for others to take and me giving in a way where I started feeling my back break. (Tracy Lee)

I have enough means to me, that all I need to heal, I have it inside of me, my heart, my love, and my knowledge. (Mélyssa)

To me, it is important to know that ‘I am enough’ because it was a battle from a young age to look and act a certain way. I was bombarded by tv and magazines to be thin, to wear a certain colour of lipstick that spring, or behave like a lady and not get dirty in the mud or get covered in sawdust. (Sue)

I am enough because when I say no now, balance is restored faster. And that makes me happy! (Tracy Lee)

Can’t say it now but soon I hope. Still looking for my true self (Francine)

I am enough because when I say no now, balance is restored faster. And that makes me happy! (Tracy Lee)

I’m enough and liking myself as I am. That is a continuous battle for me but as I learn that where I’m at is enough now. If I thought I was good as I can be, there would never be a need for me to improve. (Lonni)

To this I say ‘F^*k that!’ I am who I am and I am going to learn how to wood turn a bowl or put some sediment on a slide so I can look at the organisms that live in mud under a microscope. I will live life as best as I can and enjoy it regardless of preconceived gender roles and what other people think. (Sue)