In our final sharing Circle, I asked the question, what were your takeaways from this weekend. They all had some very enlightening responses. During this time we had a lot of laughter and a lot of tears. There were some incredible bonds that were made amidst strangers that cannot be unbroken.
One person experienced an overwhelming moment over the weekend when she realized that for the last few years she has been trying to move forward and her grief has literally made her “stuck in the mud”. Often throughout the weekend, we made reference to spinning our wheels, being stuck, not being able to move forward, or holding ourselves back. We are often our own enemies. No one or no situation has control over us, but we give away our power.
We give our power away when:
- we don’t hold true to ourselves
- we do something against our beliefs or desires
- we give up who we are to please others
- we don’t take time for ourselves to feel our emotions
- we try to be brave or solid for others
These are just a few things we do to give away our power.
What did we learn? How do we take back our power?
- We don’t have to hold everything back because we are too are afraid of being judged.
- We can let ourselves have some fun and get out of routine and just BE.
- Connecting with our inner child, nurturing her, loving her, and holding space for her.
- Many of us have been in unhealthy relationships and are learning how others have overcome or are overcoming the toxicity of these relationships.
- We are not alone, even though we feel alone.
- We are similar to others and our experiences do not have such a hold on me so much anymore.
- Showing our vulnerability makes us stronger.
- To be balanced, we need to have a counterbalance.
- Connecting with like-minded people.
- Escaping from my family and friends this weekend allowed me to figure out who I am without them.
- It’s so relaxed.
- Helps us get just a little more confident.
- We feel at peace.
- Seeing others where you were, shows you how much you’ve grown.
- Learned that you have to let go of what your adult child is going through is their business and it has nothing to do with you.
- Each person who has attended has added something very special to our lives.
- Feeling blessed.
- Everyone is a breath of fresh air.
- Lift it up and let it go.
- Learning how to get back in touch with my inner child.
- We can be welcomed and accepted for who I am.
We had so many insights. And like this leaf, things resurface or come to light.
One person said that she realized that she was not alone. She was in a room full of strangers but they are now new friends. She’s never felt so at ease. Before coming someone else was questioning who she was. She knows she is a good mom, but now that they’re grown, who is she.
When someone looks at us from the outside, we think people just see it. When the reality is, many of us have been there. We all have our own experiences growing up. We may have felt unworthy, dirty, or judged.
In reality, nobody had a clue what was going on. And from the outside, we may think some people have it all put together. When in reality, they don’t. We put on a mask and away we go.
And from the outside, we may think some people have it all put together. When in reality, they don’t. We put on a mask and away we go.
When we let go of all the things and just be ourselves, we realize that we can just be ourselves. When we let go of all the judgments that others may have, we can truly be ourselves.
Discovering what and who I am! We identify as the mother, the daughter, the friend, the spouse, the worker … but who (insert your name here) is lost. Our thoughts, feelings, and day-to-day activities get lost in our daily lives of survival.
What are you going to do to take back who you are? To re-discover who you are? To simply BE YOU.
And if you don’t know who yourself is because you’ve lost yourself, take time every day to connect with yourself. Allow yourself to escape every day just for a moment. And as you, re-discover who you are, add that to your life.
On Sunday evening while it was super quiet with only the two of us left, I fell asleep with the window open and the sound of the rain. It was so relaxing after an emotionally charged weekend.
Just as my friend and I were preparing to leave the next morning, I witnessed the biggest empowerment experience that could possibly ever be. It rained quite a bit through the night making it even muddier than it was when we arrived.
As you know from the beginning of this “Journeying Series”, we had to get shuttled in, and now needed to be shuttled out. As we were taking the first load out on the 4-wheeler, the bike and the trailer were “stuck in the mud”, literally. Jessi tried hard to get us unstuck. Me, not knowing what to do, stood and watched.
This is not me or Jessi in the image, but this is what was stuck in the mud, 1/2 way up the tires, while the trailer was near tipping.
At one point, she became even more stuck. I asked if she wanted me to go and ask for help because the more she tried, the further stuck she became. She said, “No, I’ve got this.”. She was rushing around trying to figure it out so that she could get us out of there on time. At this
point, I let her know that we weren’t in a rush to get home if that relieves some pressure. And it did.
This allowed her to take a step back and look at the situation. She was able to come up with a plan to get it unstuck. These were all new experiences for her. As she was getting it unstuck and was able to get the first load back to the vehicle, she was on THE MOST NATURAL HIGH you could see.
She became “UNSTUCK” all on her own. Now, how EMPOWERING is that! This was a beautiful way to end the weekend.
I’ve shared pictures that the women have taken of our weekend together in the Gallery. I invite you to have a look. I love the view from fresh sets of eyes. I have been there often enough that I see how we get acclimatized to our space and don’t see things with the same eyes as before.
I want to finish with this quote,
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken” – Oscar Wilde
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